Good morning people! On Monday I wrote you how I felt chaotic inside my head, like I needed to get my life back together after being too carefree and a little sloppy. I mean night outs, sleeping too little, not going that much to the gym, spontaneous late nights drinking wine with friends, working a lot at weird hours, eating ice-cream for breakfast because I was out of porridge, and so on. Then I read a comment by Natali that I had to quote here:
‘What does it even mean to get your life together? I often say this and I don’t even what I actually mean by that… What if being all those things which you’ve mentioned, eating out, drinking wine with friends, sleeping too little… Letting loose of all the chains IS getting life together?’
How true was that. So basically I haven’t been stressing about it, sometimes I sleep too little and that’s it, sometimes my home gets so messy I’m ashamed of inviting friends here, sometimes I’m just too lazy to go grocery shopping and eat crap instead. Why do I even have the thought in my head, that everything should be so put together, organized and perfect in general? Would I really enjoy life that would be perfectly controlled and… boring? No.
Huomenta kaikille! Maanantaina kirjoittelin, miten musta tuntui jotenkin pääni sisällä kaoottiselta, tyypillinen maanantain ajatus että nyt taas elämä järjestykseen. Viime aikoina on tullut siis nukuttua vähän liian vähän, juotua viinilasillisia spontaanisti vähän liian usein, ja käytyä salilla vähän liian harvoin. Helpotti lukea postauksen alta kommentti, että eikö juuri sellainen kontrollista irti päästäminen ja vain rennosti oleminen ole sitä elämän järjestykseen saamista. Nehän ovat kaikki osa elämää. Tuli pieni ahaa-elämys, että niinpä tosiaan. Välillä mun koti on niin sotkuinen, ettei kehtaa kavereita kutsua, välillä tulee syötyä ties mitä turhaa kun laiskottaa käydä kaupassa, ja välillä suunniteltu sali vain tulee skipattua kun viini-illat kavereiden kanssa houkuttavat enemmän. Ja välillä ei jaksa ajatella järkevästi aikaisten herätysten takia, vaan valitsee liian lyhyet yöunet. Miksihän mulla on edes koko ajatus, että elämän kaikki osa-alueet pitäisivät olla jotenkin kontrollissa, kaikki asiat järjestyksessä ja täydellisesti hallinnassa? Nauttisinko mä oikeasti sellaisesta elämästä? Kuulostaa aika tylsältä. Sellaisia ajatuksia tänään.
Jacket Gina Tricot
Lace-up sweater KappAhl
Jeans Topshop
Shoes Adidas
Bag Saint Laurent
Nikki says
I absolutely love this post, and it’s so true too!!
Your outfit is gorgeous as always, absolutely love your bag!:) X
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Marianna says
Aw well thank you Nikki! 🙂 x
With Or Without Shoes says
Cool bomber and sneakers touch!
Today on the blog I show my new crisscross sandals with platform and wide high heel from a Italian Brand I have just discovered…they are so comfy. You are gonna love them! 😉
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Ann says
Perfect! I love your bag and sweater <3
Natali says
Thanks for the mention and I’m glad to read that it made you think because it’s something that I have realised not too long time ago as well… Who says that super “polished” and controlled life is the one “to go with” and the one that is “the right one”? What if doing just what your heart tells you and what you really feel like without thinking what others would say or what tv/ newspapers, etc. would suggest… What if we just live by our own rules, what feels good to us in the moment? 🙂
You’re such a beautiful and smart young girl, thank you for inspiring!
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Marianna says
It was a great comment! 🙂 I really agree with you, todays society messes up easily your thoughts, when there are so many different advices and rules how you should live your life and be the perfect human, but in fact that’s all just a big lie. Thanks again lovely Natali, the same words right back at you! 🙂 x
Minna says
Niinhän se on (ainakin itsellä), että yrittää pitää kaiken mahdollisimman “järjestyksessä” ja “täydellisenä” elämässä ja sitten on morkkis valvotuista illoista ja syödyistä suklaista kuntosalin sijaan, mutta ne tuovat elämään juurikin sitä kipinää ja erilaisuutta! Muuten olisi tooodella tylsää, ainakin itsellä 😀 Pitää aina muistaa, että ei saa olla itselleen liian ankara!
Marianna says
No jep, kuulostaa tutulta… 😀 Mutta oikeassa oot, täytyy aina välillä muistuttaa itseään tästä kun alkaa taas stressaamaan!
lindsay at VAUGHAN says
It’s these simple looks with luxe details that translate SO well. I love the army green paired with the little red detail on the adidas. Great shots.
Lindsay | http://www.ReadTheThread.com
Naomi says
I agree so much with you and Natali! I always thought that a perfect quiet life is boring. Yes, it’s good to be organized and to have a good routine, but you can’t be always perfect and you can’t always control everything. We have to accept the fact that sometimes things just go not perfectly and we have to deal with it!
I love your sweater! It looks so comfy and so perfect!
Love, Naomi
Marianna says
Yes exactly! That’s just life. Thank you so much Naomi! 🙂 x
Edith says
What a wonderful thoughtful post…love it!
Much love
http://thehappyvegangirl.com
Jenny says
Great post, I am glad you shared that comment with us because she is so right!
I will try to keep that in mind when I feel like I need to get my life sorted and be all put together.
Wow, that is such a great thought for a thursday morning, I think that just made me feel ten times better about life!
Love,
Jenny
Jenny Side Up
Marianna says
Thank you Jenny! 🙂 So great to hear that many of you related to my thoughts! x
Katja says
moi 🙂 mä monesti ajattelen, että jos myisin kaikki mun merkkivaatteet ja kaikki mun tavarat, ja jättäisin vain yhden matkalaukun joka ois täynnä mun lemppareita ja irtisanoisin kämpän ja lähtisin töistä ja vain muuttaisin esim Intiaan missä ei tarvii ajatella näitä meidän perushuolia vaan voi vain elää.. se niin houkuttelisi mutten ikinä tee sellaista.. 😀 joskus mustaki tuntuu siltä, että en jaksa enää kontroloida ja hallita tilanteita ja että haluaisin antaa niiden vain olla.. ja mun mielestä se on toisaalta ihan tosi hyvä idis ja helpottaa paljon.. mut toisaalta välillä pelottaa, että jos se menee överiks? jos annan kaiken olla niin mitä minulla jää?
Marianna says
Ymmärrän pointtisi, hah niinpä, pienillä muutoksilla vähän vapaammaksi… Kiitos Katja kommentista! 🙂
Mar Donderis says
I love your look! The bomber is so cool 🙂
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Liesa says
Great post! I often feel this way too! It’s just what society tells us what our life should look like. Don’t pressure yourself, just do what’s important to you!
xx
http://www.thefashionplaybook.de
Marianna says
Yup, todays society tells us million different things how we should live and do things in every area of our lives. Thank you for the comment Liesa! 🙂 x
Laura says
Great post, I definitely agree letting loose is getting life together ! Love your sweater as well 😉
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Love from Paris
Julie says
Woooow, this has really touched a deep part of my heart. I guess you are so right, we only live once let’s live it with no rules and boring routines.
Love,
JULIE || cuteiinstgram.blogspot.com
Marianna says
Thanks so much Julie, made me so happy to hear that!:) x
ISABEL - EL SECRETO DE MISTER CLOSET says
I like your sweater and sneakers.
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Kasia says
Hi Marianna! I just wanted to tell you I totally agree with Natali. I’m a perfectionist too, I always make plans about everything and then I feel stressed because I know I HAVE to do 100000 things and this is too much for one day and I feel like a crap, my life is so boring, I’m so boring and one day when I was freaking out I thought “Gosh, what am I actually doing? I’m ruing my life, I’m just a human, I need to live my life not just watching life”. I’m pretty sure you know what I mean. I think this quote should be our motto in life. I wish you all the best! A lot of hugs, Kasia <3
Marianna says
I know exactly what you mean! Just letting life flow while actually enjoying it, not trying to control it like crazy and believing that everything will solve itself out – that’s so important! Thank you Kasia! <3
Anaïs says
Absolutely loved that post because I feel the same. I’m such a control freak, and I sometimes hate it because as you said, my life would be so boring if it was perfectly controlled.
Love xx
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Marianna says
Thank you so much! 🙂 So happy to hear that, hope you can break your control freak habits too! x
Amy says
This post hit home for me – I feel like right now I am always trying to have thing in life as ‘perfect’ and organised as possible, and always ensure I’m doing set things each day, like going to the gym; so when a day doesn’t work out like that (which is often because that’s life) I feel like I’ve failed and things are chaotic. But you are so right, and I try to remind myself of these things to – after all the chaos of today, in the grand scheme of things, as long as you are on the right track, will not actually matter.
Amy
thenoiseinwonderland.blogspot.com.au
Marianna says
I’m kind of the same, really relate to what you are writing. But exactly, life is not that serious, and just taking it easy and enjoying the little things in life is what makes life worth living! x
camille says
Awesome
Xoxo
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Annika says
Hyvä pointti! Itsellänikin on valitettavasti välillä taipumis pyrkiä täydellisyyteen, mistä ei pidemmän päälle seuraa mitään hyvää. Ei elämä niin vakavaa loppujen lopuksi ole 🙂
Marianna says
Varmaan monella on nykykulttuurissa taipumusta perfektionismiin, kaikenmaailman ohjeita tuputetaan joka suunnalta miten kuuluisi elää. Mutta niinpä, elämä ei olekaan niin vakavaa. 🙂 Jälkeenpäin harmittaisi jos vanhempana tuon vasta oivaltaisi!
Monika says
Love this!
Love,
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Marianna says
Love to hear that! 🙂 x
Maria says
I once read a quote that said something like this: “people with a messy home are busy enjoying life. People with a clean home are busy cleaning” 🙂
Marianna says
What a great quote, must be true. 😀 Thank you for sharing that Maria! x
Maria says
You’re welcome
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Stella says
It’s your life Marianna! Live it the way you want it.
It doesn’t have to be/look perfect but needs to feel true and real to you.
xxx
Stella from a Looks & Travels
Marianna says
Exactly. 🙂 Thank you Stella! x
Katja says
Kylläpä osui ja upposi tämä postaus. Itsekin olen vähän perfektionisti ja kun yrittää jatkuvasti pidellä kaikista ohjaksista kiinni yhtään hellittämättä, tulee elämästä todella raskasta. Muutenkin, ne spontaanit illanvietot ja herkutteluhetket ovat juuri niitä juttuja jotka tekevät elämästä elämisen arvoista <3 Note to self: täytyy muistaa olla lempeämpi itseään kohtaan! Ihanaa torstai-iltaa! xxx
Marianna says
No niinpä, se menee just noin. En usko että kukaan perfektionisti on täysin tyytyväinen elämäänsä ja pitelee kaikkia lankoja käsissään vain tyytyväisenä, lopulta sellainen vain ajaa hulluksi! Mutta just noin, kaikki spontaanit pikkujutut ja nautinnot tekee elämästä ihanaa. Kiitos Katja kommentista, samaa sinnekin! <3 xx
Anna says
Itse olen todella kova tekemään suunitelmia ja ahdistaa, jos ne muuttuvatkin. Olen yrittänyt ottaa hieman rennommin ja spontaanimmin, muttei onnistu! Lisäksi olen huomannut stressaavani omien asioideni lisäksi myös vähintään yhtä paljon poikaystäväni asioista. Pitäisi siis ehdottomasti osata ottaa rennommin. Vaikka tietysti jonkinlainen suunnittelu onkin järkevää, niin pitäisi osata suhtautua avoimemmin mielin eteen tuleviin suunnitelmien muutoksiin tai extempore-tilanteisiin.
Marianna says
Äh voi ei, tunnistan vähän itseänikin tuossa. Elämä kyllä helpottuu jos osaa vain ottaa rennomman asenteen, mutta helpommin sanottu kuin tehty. Vielä mitä pidempään on aina toiminut tietyllä tavalla ja ajatellut tietyllä tavalla, sitä kauemmin kestää opetella ja rikkoa sitä ajatusmallia. Mutta pikkujutuilla eteenpäin! 🙂
Kate says
While I prefer to be more “stereotypically” put together with my life, I’ve definitely been feeling this lately. There’s no real rules or guidelines, and as long as you’re happy, having fun, and not harming anyone, I don’t see why there’s anything wrong with getting a little messy sometimes, literally and figuratively!
Marianna says
You’re so right! 🙂 Thank you Kate! x
Tanja says
I am sooo glad you seem to have realized the real thing meaning perfection isn’t fun. It is so much more easy living without being perfect.. oh yeah!!!
Aga says
You are sensationel!Thank you for inspiration…
Abdullah Teke says
You look hot sloppy.not alot of people can pull that off. Bravo :* with ya cuteass
Aru says
Of course as a bloger, living on selling your photos- I mean, privacy, like your wardrobe, make-up, home- you have to create some kind of illusion that your life is perfect, just for the blog’s sake. So I think that it perfectly makes sense if you feel that you should be organised etc.
S
Aga says
very good point!
Nina Sax says
Well I’m not sure it is so “terrible” and “horrible” to sleep “too little”, I mean you do nap in the day, no ? And since you are working as a blogger, I mean… I think you can afford to sleep less than for example someone who really has a job with big responsibilities… Since it’s not your case, and since you need something to write about, sleeping less and late nights seems to be more appropriate for you and your job. Otherwise, you would just get boring, wouldn’t you ? ^^
Eating ice cream for breakfast ? Oh my god how COULD YOU, HOW COULD YOU !!!!!!!! No I’m just kiddin’… obviously… seriously, if this is all you worry about, then I think you have nothing to worry about… 😉
I mean… you remind me of this :
http://knowyourmeme.com/memes/first-world-problems
so… same thing for the not going to the gym thing : as long as you don’t get fat and add 20 kg to your weight, I guess you’ll be just fine.. I mean, sure you need to stay fit in good shape and set a good example for your readers… but then again… doing a selfie picture EVERY TIME you go to the gym is just ridiculous. Sure sometimes you cannot just live your life since you have to share it with everyone… but there are other more interesting pictures than those 🙂
So don’t put anything together. You are just fine. Live your life & be happy. That’s it.
cheers 😉
Fee says
You are gorgeous! <3 do you usually shoot in af-s, af-a or af-c? (:
Hugs! Xxxx